Constellations are a simple yet profound method used to shed light on situations that trouble us in our lives. This approach is particularly effective in working with issues that continue to create challenges in spite of our best efforts to change them.
Emerging breakthroughs in science and psychotherapy, as well as ancient spiritual teachings all point towards the profound influence our family history, ancestral lineage and other systemic pressures have on our lives. We now know that on the level of the soul people are multigenerational beings.
Our genetic history can lie at the root of illness, depression, anxiety, unexplained fears and panic attacks, as well as financial failure, addiction and failed relationships.
Through the process or experientially tapping into the “morphogenetic field” where the blueprint of these hidden burdens exist we can transform the unconscious dynamics that affect our families, friendships, health, professional life and community. The process can be deeply moving and often results in significant healing and surprising resolutions not only for ourselves but with measurable results that ripple out into our family.
Note: This approach can be experienced in a workshop setting or through individual processes in person or on the phone.
Beyond a doubt we know that much of what we experience in business, as in life, is influenced by dynamics hidden to common understanding. The interplay of various systems which simultaneously impact us can compromise our ability to make clear, rational decisions when we most need to. These unconscious connections can also directly influence the success of the business, employee and customer’s relationships and much more.
In a process similar to the family constellation approach these hidden dynamics are explored, understood and responded to to create positive change. In Europe the top tiers of Fortune 500 companies are being reorganized using this approach with the support of the founder of this work– Bert Hellinger.
Like families and businesses the various elements of our community are invisibly linked and changes in one part of the system can strongly affect other parts. Community constellations can be done in large groups or in individual settings to explore action steps that strengthen and nourish the entire community, nation, or world. Often hidden problem areas are identified and surprising, creative insights arise during these processes. See below and FAQ for practical details and history of constellation work.
What happens in a workshop?
The issues we look at in workshops are directly determined by the participants. You can choose to do a constellation yourself or simply be a representative or witness in other peoples constellations. Regardless of your level of participation tremendous personal shifts are possible with this work.
There are three ways to participate in a workshop: as a witness, as a representative in someone else’s constellation, or doing your own constellation.
As a witness you will simply observe other peoples constellations. Your quality of presence contributes greatly to the group energy and to other people’s processes. Witnessing this work in itself can be life changing.
As a representative You may be asked to represent a family member or position (for example life purpose, destiny, secret) in someone’s constellation. It is up to you if you accept this request or not. If you accept you will be positioned in the room and asked to simply surrender to whatever body sensations that arise for you and to share that when asked. There is no acting involved in this process.
There is often a surprising synchronicity in being asked to represent someone. Frequently there are similarities between the role you are representing and your own family history. Tremendous healing can happen for people who chose to participate in this way.
Doing your own constellation (provided there is time in the workshop) I will ask you for a brief description of the issue and what outcome you want from doing this work. I may ask specific questions related to your family to explore what may be the root of the situation you are experiencing. We may do a geneogram or I may intuitively determine systemic connections.
Participants will be selected to represent your family members or other positions. When they are set up (placed in various paces in the room), the representative’s often have sensations and feelings that are relevant for the people they represent even though they have no prior knowledge of them. I may make suggestions of healing movements to shift dynamics that may need strengthening or the representatives may be naturally drawn towards a healing resolution.
This work reveals the interconnection between all life and the continuing influence our family has on our lives regardless of separation through time, space or even death. It is a very enriching experience.
What happens in an Individual Session?
The constellations in an individual session are similar group sessions but we use dolls, figures, paper and/or other items to represent the family. We then use the felt senses in our own body as well as intuitive processes to identify stresses or entanglements in the family system and make healing shifts.
I have found that more information is available doing constellations in a workshop setting although individual sessions can also be quite beneficial and reveal surprising information. The benefit of individual sessions is that they can be done on the phone or in the privacy of my office in Nelson.
Issues that Family Constellations Address
Constellations can be particularly effective in dealing with chronic or ongoing issues that plague you in spite of your best efforts to change. Issues can include:
- Relationship difficulties between partners, including divorce and second marriages
- Inability to achieve what you want in life
- Recurring feelings of isolation, abandonment and rejection
- Difficulty making life choices and change
- Problems with money, career or relational issues at work
- Emotional issues – depression, panic attacks
- Difficulties between parents and children
- Illness and addictions
- Intimacy issues, recurring trauma from incest, rape and violence
- Fertility, adoption, miscarriage, abortion
- Mental/ Physical/ Emotional illnesses
- Recurring shame or guilt
- and more
History of Systemic Constellation Therapy
Family Constellation is originally the inspirational work of Bert Hellinger. The work has spread through out the world, with many facilitators expanding the work in new directions. www.hellinger.com
Although the constellation approach has only been developed in the last few decades, when it is compared with ancient indigenous shamanic healing practices there are striking similarities. Discoveries being made in the scientific community also deepen our understanding of this work. (For more information please visit my blog.)
My approach is to combine what is being learned through constellations with ancient indigenous knowledge, current findings in quantum physics, and trauma/bonding psychotherapeutic models. I believe it is in this way that tremendous leaps forward will be made in our ability to create positive change in our own lives, our children’s lives and the life of the planet itself. I feel committed to this study.
What Client’s say:
The family constellation work is light, fun and deeply moving. It’s more like play than therapy but the shifts are real, profound and immediate.-John Land
Medical Intuitive, Healer, Counsellor
I guess I was the group “sceptic”, but as you said on Friday, this can be healthy. I was moved to see people appear lighter and I am sure they felt loved and cared for. No small thing at all on this planet!-B. Ogletree
I found the Family Constellation process extremely profound…..I felt a shift and big connections before during and afterwards! Thank you very much for this chance for deep healing!-Barbara Halliday
The workshop was a very deep and moving experience and I enjoyed the group process and the connections to others. I was very impressed with your enthusiasm and skills in bringing out and interpreting what was going on on a deeper level. It is very intuitive work and you are uniquely suited to it-Ulla Devine